People seeking counselling come from a wide variety of backgrounds and walks of life and counsellors offering support are just as varied. They are of all ages and social groups, some working or training as counsellors and therapists in other situations, whilst others volunteer because they have an interest in bereavement work or perhaps have experienced losses in their own lives.
All counsellors are carefully selected and undergo in-depth training in bereavement work and its surrounding issues before they begin working with clients. They receive clinical supervision and the service adheres to the Ethical Framework of the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP).
How does counselling work?
Everyone has a unique experience after someone they were close to has died and each person has to find their own individual way through their feelings. Alongside sadness and pain, they may also experience guilt, anger, resentment, confusion about changes in surviving relationships, a reassessment of the past or uncertainty about the future.
People use couselling support for many different reasons. Some may have friends and family but feel reluctant to burden them with their grief or wish to protect those who are also grieving from further pain. Sometimes people surrounding the bereaved person fail to understand what they’re going through or do not want to hear. Perhaps the bereaved person is far from family and friends who may be living in different parts of the country or even across the World. Others may be coping with demanding work or family commitments and find there is little time to grieve or that they have to put on a ‘brave face’ for much of the time, despite complex feelings which may be affecting their day to day life.
Counsellors are not necessarily able to provide answers to all the questions you may have at a time like this. However, they offer the opportunity to meet each week, to talk about all the different thoughts, feelings and confusion following bereavement. Although the relationship is not primarily about ‘befriending’, spending time with someone who is committed to listening to and supporting you may greatly help your sense of wellbeing and create a space in which you can begin to find your own answers. This support is a little like having someone walk some of the way alongside a person who is travelling their path of grief.
We are very aware of the utmost importance of confidentiality for everyone making use of the service. We make a commitment to each client that nothing said during a counselling meeting will be repeated outside the service. Exceptions will only be made in the most life-threatening situations and if at all possible this will always be discussed with the client first.